Instant gratification. It’s easy to think we can have it these days. After all, we happen to live in a swipe right, click the mouse and order it up kind of world. However, general life is often more of a waiting game. When we become preoccupied with reaching a destination rather than the journey itself, we deprive ourselves of living in the moment. We miss the lesson, and we ultimately miss the blessing. Life’s storms have a way of raging on from time to time. Maybe you feel like you’re trapped in a reoccuring storm, and you can’t see an end in sight. To my knowledge, there isn’t any such thing as a storm that lasts forever.
Sometimes there just isn’t any easy fix or clear answer to life’s trials. Sometimes we just have to endure the storm, let it pass and learn from it. Sometimes we just don’t have the time, the money, the people or the resources to get to where we want to be, when we want to get there. However, it is important to remember that delays don’t mean denials. Likewise, limitations don’t mean one needs to be hopeless. Bad days don’t make for a bad life. While life may currently be traveling at slow pace on an unknown winding road, there are free and easy ways we can improve our lives in the moment. No, we may not get instant gratification, but we can get instant improvement:
- Give it to God. Call it cliche, but I simply cannot publish a blog post about improving one’s life without making this #1 on the list. Over and over again his word says, “do not fear.” Over and over in my life, he’s proven himself faithful. He wants to carry our burdens for us and give us peace in the midst of life’s storms. His word never does promise that we’ll be without trials. In fact, it assures us that we will face trials. However, we are also assured that through our trials we develop perseverance and character. The good Lord also promises to give wisdom to those who ask for it. (James 1, 1 Peter 5:7, Proverbs 3:5-6 and Exodus 14:13-14 are some of my favorite scriptures to remember during uncertain times).
- Get organized. This may sound insignificant to some, but for me personally, it’s very significant. I’m still a work in progress in this area, but the more organized I become, the better I feel. I’ve never found anything good to come out of disorganization, but I’ve always found something good to come out of organization. Being disorganized wastes time and money, while simply creating unneeded stress. Even when life feels “messy”…..I feel just a little better knowing I have an organized home, car and work space.
- Purge and get rid of things you don’t need. The older I get, the more I hate clutter. God began dealing with me concerning clutter a few years ago. For six weeks of my l life, I ended up in a situation where I had to live with “less.” While I stayed between friend’s homes, I had a little amount of “stuff” with me. I was able to focus more on people and the things of God. I realized I had enough, and I didn’t miss all the stuff back at my apartment. I then moved all that junk to my new home, but let me tell you, it wasn’t long before I did the biggest closest cleaning of my life. I recruited my sister and opinionated guy friend to act like judges on the “What not to wear,” show. I told them to be brutal during my “fashion show.” By the time they were done saying things like, “you don’t need that,” “that’s hideous,” and “what were you thinking when you bought that,” my closet was about 50% lighter. I’m still working on purging, but I’d say I’ve downsized my possessions by at least 25% since buying my new home. Purging is also great, because you have the options of giving these items to someone in need or selling them to make money…..or both. If part of your issue is finances, sometimes a nice secondary income can happen by simply selling things you don’t need. Ebay and yard sales is where it’s at, friends. Ever since God placed the words, “where there is clutter, there is no clarity,” in my spirit…I’ve been taking this whole decluttering thing pretty serious.
- Avoid drama and toxic people. Although this may seem like common sense, it’s a common struggle area for many. Myself included. I’ve heard it said, “show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” Just one toxic person in a boat is all it takes to sink it. Though there will always be invites to various theatrical performances, we don’t have to attend them. Instead of RSVP’ing with a “yes,”….remember you have the “no” option. We also don’t have to suit up for every battle we’re invited to. Failure to choose battles wisely will end up resulting in constant combat.
- Surround yourself with positive people and good things. As an antonym to #4, positivity and good inner circles bring good things. Positive people and positive environments not surprisingly bring encouragement, support and inspiration, which eventually results in good outcomes.
- Give away whatever it is that you’re needing. Need a hug? Give one. Want a friend? Be one. Want love? Love someone. When we give away whatever it is we’re needing, we somehow end up more blessed than we would have if we had simply received without giving. Giving. It’s good for the soul. Always has been. Always will be.
- Let go of what you can’t change. Refusing to let go of what one cannot change is about as useless as shattered glass. We can’t fix it no matter how much we discuss it, rehearse it and overthink it. If we’ve done all we can do to make right our wrongs, we’ve done all we can do. This ties back to #1……give it to God.
- Rid yourself of bitterness. I’ve heard it said that holding a grudge is basically letting someone live rent free in one’s head. It ultimately affects the offended more than the offender. Like disorganization, I’ve never known of anything good to come from bitterness. Bitterness was created by the devil. Don’t forget his mission is to steal, kill and destroy. Hang on to that bitterness, and rest assured, all it will do is steal, kill and destroy you. Break free and never look back.
- Be responsible. If life is already hitting hard, the biggest mistake one can make is to be irresponsible. Completely neglecting finances and obligations, while taking on a lifestyle of recklessness and carelessness will always result in negative consequences. Playing catch up results in a lot of clean up, which results in more unnecessary stress.
- Be grateful for what you do have. As simple as it sounds, counting blessings makes all the difference. When we look at what we do have instead of what we don’t have, it creates an attitude of thankfulness. Thankfulness is a sibling to contentment. Though God wants to bless each and every one of us, he doesn’t want us to forget the ways in which we’re already blessed. Don’t like your current job? How about you start by writing down ten things you like about the job you do have? For starters….do they pay you? Want a new car simply because yours is old and boring? How about the fact that it runs and you no longer have a car payment? Did you wake up this morning? How about that bed and roof over your head?
There is always something to be thankful for……always. Never lose hope. Always look to him…..the author and the finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). We can choose peace and joy, while we wait on the vision and the harvest (Habakkuk 2:3 and Galatians 6:9). He always sees us through, and he always will.
